Eye-to-Eye; Face-to-Face in 2014

Eye-to-Eye; Face-to-Face in 2014

What’s next for 2014? How about a little civility? Our world is so connected; so digital; so electronic; we lose sight of the human connections that make our lives complete.

It is so incredibly easy to write an e-mail and hit ‘send;’ or text someone a question, that we often never make that human connection. Remember the days when you’d phone someone and ask, “How are you doing?” It seems no one really cares how the other person is doing these days. Each of us is so tied up with whatever the deadline of the moment is that we are just happy to get a reply email from the person we reached within a day or so.

What could be happening is that we forget how to talk to each other. When we are in the same room together eye-to-eye and face-to-face, we have no patience; we react too quickly we fail to listen.

I saw a TV spot from Values.com that expresses the need for civility. While the message is that a little kindness goes a long way, what we also need to do is get in the room with people more often and just listen. Civil_Jan2014Have a conversation that goes back and forth; try not to interrupt while the other person – or people – are trying to make their points. Share your thoughts; ask questions when you don’t understand and for heaven’s sake, be civil.

When you can have an actual conversation with a person or a group of people and leave the room with a smile and some satisfaction that something got accomplished, you have renewed the human connections needed to get from one day to the next.

Among the goals you set for 2014, consider making a phone call to a business associate, friend or family member at least once a week – just to ask, “how are you doing?” Show appreciation; say “thank you;” and when someone thanks YOU – reply with, “you’re welcome.” Better yet – try “my pleasure.” And say it with a smile.

Your Don’t Know What You’ve Lost..Till You Lost It

I lost my cell phone today. Just like many, many people – my life is in my cell phone. Much of what’s in my phone IS recoverable.; even photos. Today I had several important business calls – those all took place via another number. In between, I kept calling my phone hoping some nice person found it and could answer it and save the day. After four rings, samsungphonethe phone went to voice mail. It was very weird hearing my own voice mail message. After a while, the phone went directly to voice mail. The possibilities are:

1. Someone found the phone and turned it off (then did who knows what with it)

2. The phone is out of range

3. The phone – is toast.

VERY long story-short, I suspended service on the lost phone; I have a dumb phone at the moment with my regular cell number and I forked out more than $300 to by new hardware. If the phone arrives tomorrow as was promised, I’ll have to jump through the service provider hoops to again change the hardware assigned to my phone number. Of course then I have to reinstall my emails, all the apps and everything else. I also spent a lot of time late today changing all my passwords – just in case.

There’s still an outside chance someone turned the phone in to lost and found where I think I lost it; but it’s a holiday weekend and the lost and found place won’t be up and running until Tuesday. Who knows, I may have TWO phones by the middle of next week.  I think I’ll velcro the new phone to my recalled hip.